3 Questions Solo Travelers Hate To Be Asked
...but answer anyways.
Are you ever just living your life and someone crosses in your path with a pessimistic attitude because they don't have an open mind about living their dreams and accomplishing their goals? Well join the club. Okay, I know I'm sounding real sassy and I'm all for asking questions you genuinely want to know the answer to, but when you approach said solo traveler with a negative tone to someone who is enjoying and going after what they love and are passionate about, then you become the annoying person of the week. Let us optimists be! Okay, sassy rant over! Here is where I help out those people. These are 3 questions I get asked the most as a solo traveler. Admittedly I hate it, but I answer anyways.
1.) Aren't you scared?
You knew this one was coming, didn't you? This is the #1 question I have been asked since I started my solo travel journey. I personally am a 'faith over fear' kinda chick. Sure I had my initial reservations about traveling alone when I first started. I didn't want to end up on the side of the road in a ditch, never to be heard from again. But there were (and still is) so many places I wanted to see and explore, and so many life changing experiences I wanted to venture out on that others simply didn't care to do or weren't available to do with me. So, I stepped out on faith and took my first solo journey to San Juan, Puerto Rico 5 years ago. And I've been going ever since. Now I've come to terms with the idea that travel is MY passion, not necessarily everyone elses. I'm okay with that because it just reminds me that experiencing life and world as I want to, on my terms.
2.) Don't you get bored?
How I feel about this question is this: if you don't enjoy your own company at home, then how can you enjoy it 6000 miles away from home? And every single second of the day doesn't have to be 'on and poppin', 'lit', or 'fleeky'. That's okay too. The key is to take advantage of the special moments when you get to be placed outside of your comfort zone and when you get to explore another culture. Cherish these intimate moments with yourself. Revel in the moments where you simply sitting on the train in a foreign country, headed from one city to the next. Enjoy the silence. If your mind is running a mile a minute, start journaling. So to answer the question, no, I don't get bored, I get excited about what's to come.
3.) How do you eat at restaurants alone?
The same way I go to restaurants at home alone lol. Real talk, I just go. Start at a small cafe or someplace with a smaller intimate setting. If you are nervous about people looking at you a certain way, then find out when the restaurant is not as busy and go. Don't let the stares or assumptions of others stop you. They are only wondering how you're doing it, because they want to know for themselves.
I traveled well over 5,000 miles to a country I've never visited before simply because I wanted to experience a culture outside my own, explore a beautiful place I've only seen in history books, and because I want to contribute to a culture that goes after what they want even when others don't understand.
It takes a certain kind of courage to travel the world alone, yes. But we all have it in us. If you need help on where to start, then check out my "How to Plan Your First Solo Adventure", and "One Simple Tip to Prepare for Solo Travel" posts. If it's something you want to do, please please please go for it. Please!
You will thank yourself later for it.
So, I ask you....where do you want to go? And what are you doing to get you there?
As always, happy travels!